Summary:

Satan wants us to continue to become more and more selfish. Therefore, he keeps a file of every hurt, pain, and trial we have ever experienced and uses it to keep us contained. When we
rehearse and nurse negative memories and emotions, we become more
concerned with practicing self- preservation, which is a form of fear.
Fear keeps us locked behind a wall of containment, and it keeps us from
demonstrating unconditional love.



  1. “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?” (Romans 8:35).
    1. Many times those closest to us separate us from our decision to operate in unconditional love.
      1. When a loved one challenges our unconditional love for them, we should remain consistent in what we have learned from God’s Word.
      2. Regardless of the condition, we must remain rooted and grounded in love (Ephesians 3:16, 17).
      3. When our foundation is love, acts of love will flow from us, despite the situation.
    2. We must examine our love to be sure it is not fake or hypocritical (Romans 12:9).
      1. Hypocrisy is pretending to love someone with the motive of taking advantage of them.
      2. Our love should be sincere, which means we are always seeking to give others the advantage instead of taking advantage of them.
    3. Since people help us develop in unconditional love, it is not good for us to be alone. We need relationships (Genesis 2:18).
      1. If we are always alone, we will develop in self-centeredness.
      2. Unconditional love is a life-long development process.

Scripture References:

  • Romans 8:35
  • Ephesians 3:16-17
  • Romans 12:9
  • Genesis 2:18

Pastor Robert Bagonza
Redeemed Church