God uses relationships to bless you and He desires that you understand how to create healthy relationships with others. One of the most important relationships in the kingdom of God is

  1. Christians are to operate according to the Kingdom of God system.
    1. You must understand that the only way to truly get your needs met is to operate according to the Kingdom of God system.
      1. Seek first the Kingdom of God and everything else will be added to you (Matthew 6:31-33).
        1. Without understanding the Kingdom of God system, Christians will not know how to get their needs met.
        2. It is vital to seek God's way of doing things instead of the world's way.
    2. The Kingdom of God works like the farming system and is designed to meet all of our needs.
      1. When you have a need, go to the Word of God to find the promise that covers the need.
      2. The Word must be planted in the ground of your heart.
      3. Once the seed of the Word is planted, it will grow the life that you desire.
        1. If you lack something, grow it with the Word of God.
    3. Relationships should operate according to the Kingdom of God system.
      1. Whatever seeds you sow into your relationships is what you will reap.
        1. What you do to others is a seed that will produce a particular harvest in your life.

  2. There are four basic needs that every human being has.
    1. Acceptance
      1. Acceptance is knowing that you are loved and needed by others.
    2. Identity
      1. Identity is knowing that you are significant and special.
    3. Security
      1. Security is knowing that you are well protected and provided for.
    4. Purpose
      1. Purpose is knowing that you have a reason for living and that God has a special plan for your life.
    5. God will meet these needs through the right relationships.
    6. Satan attacks marriages so that these four basic needs will not be met.

  3. God has given husbands and wives specific responsibilities in order to meet each other's needs in marriage (Ephesians 5:21-33).
    1. Husbands and wives are to submit to one another out of respect for God (v. 21).
      1. When husbands and wives obey what God has instructed them to do in marriage, they are submitting themselves to one another.
      2. Wives are to submit to their husbands as if they were serving Jesus (v. 22).
      3. Wives must first be obedient and submissive to God in order to be able to submit to their husbands.
    2. The husband is the head of the wife (v. 23).
      1. The husband must lead and love his wife like Jesus loved the church.
      2. God wants husbands to lead their wives, not control and manipulate them.
        1. A man that can't control his own emotions will attempt to selfishly control his wife.
        2. A man must resolve his fear of failure in order to properly lead and care for his wife without bruising her with uncontrollable anger.
        3. Husbands should not treat their wives like children by trying to control them. a Husbands must overcome fear and release control, and allow their wives
          to help them in their leadership of the family.
      3. In God's eyes, because the husband holds the position of leader, he is responsible for the direction of his family.
        1. Every husband needs to study the life of Jesus to see how He operated as the head of the church.
        2. Husbands must stay connected to God at all times so that they know how to lead their households. iii. A true leader will carve a path that will allow
          others to follow his lead.
    3. Wives are only required to submit to their husbands in what is right and lines up with God's Word (v. 24).
    4. A husband must lay down his own interests and give of himself to his wife to follow Jesus' example (v. 25-27).
    5. Men should love their wives as they love their own bodies (v. 28).
    6. Husbands and wives must be connected to one another above everyone else (v. 31).
      1. In-laws and children are not as important as your spouse.
      2. A man's relationship with his mother should not overshadow or take priority over his relationship with his wife.
    7. Husbands are to love their wives as they love themselves (v. 33).
    8. Wives should respect, honor and highly esteem their husbands (v. 33).

Scripture References:

  • Matthew 6:31-33
  • Ephesians 5:21-33
Pastor Robert Bagonza
Redeemed Church