Life is a series of decisions and the most important decision you will ever make is the decision to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior. The second most important decision you will ever

make is choosing your mate. Choosing the right mate can determine your
happiness in life.

  1. Accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior is the most important decision you will ever make.
    1. God designed us to be free moral agents with the right to choose (Deuteronomy 30:19).
      1. Every day we must make decisions.
        1. The decisions you make will determine where you end up in life.
        2. Make decisions in line with God and His Word.
  2. Choosing a mate is the second most important decision you will ever make.
    1. The person you choose to marry can determine whether you live a life of happiness or misery.
  3. Questions you should ask yourself when you are considering a person as a marriage partner include:
    1. Is there pressure to have sex?
      1. As Christians we must make a decision to save sex for marriage (1 Thessalonians 4:3).
        1. Your body was not meant for fornication, but for God (1 Corinthians 6:13-20).
        2. Fornication is illegal sexual activity with someone you are not married to.
        3. Premarital sex is the wrong basis on which to build a relationship.
    2. Does your prospective mate respect you?
    3. Does your prospective mate listen to you and consult you before making decisions?
    4. Is there mutual submission between you and this person?
    5. Is your prospective mate truly open to your input?
    6. Have you and your prospective mate lovingly resolved conflict?
    7. How does your prospective mate treat other people?
    8. Have you dated your prospective mate long enough to know what he or she struggles with every day?
    9. Can you live with the areas in your prospective mate's life in which he or she has challenges?
    10. Is your prospective mate a giving person?
      1. Are they willing to give of themselves and make sacrifices for you?
    11. Do you and your prospective mate have effective communication skills?
    12. Is your prospective mate your best friend?
    13. If you, or your prospective mate, have been divorced, is there an understanding of why the divorce took place?
Scripture References:
  • Deuteronomy 30:19
  • 1 Thessalonians 4:3
  • 1 Corinthians 6:13-20
Pastor Robert Bagonza
Redeemed church