God has given every person free will. He will not make your decisions for you. It is important that you make wise decisions so that you can experience the good life. You must allow the

Word to be your final authority where your decisions are concerned. One
of the most important decisions you will make in life is your choice of a
marriage partner. It is critical that you ask the right questions when
considering a mate.

  1. God will not make your decisions for you.
    1. You are a free moral agent.
    2. Make the right choice; choose life (Deuteronomy 30:19).
    3. Life is a series of decisions.
      1. Make the decision to follow God and do things His way
        (Joshua 24:15).
    4. In order to be successful, you must be a wise decision-maker.
    5. You must have the right information in order to make the right decisions (Isaiah 7:15, 16).
    6. Make the Word of God your final authority for the decisions you make.

  2. The second most important decision you will make in life is the choice of a marriage partner.
    1. Your happiness in life can be determined by the person you choose to marry so choose wisely.
    2. Your choice of a mate will have a permanent bearing on your children.

  3. There are three practical areas to look at when choosing a mate.
    1. Do not make seeking a mate your priority; seek God.
    2. Respect your parents' judgment when it comes to the person you are considering for marriage.
    3. Marry a person whose final authority is the Word of God. Marry a Christian (2 Corinthians 6:14-16).

  4. There are twenty questions you should ask yourself when you are considering a person as a marriage partner.
    1. Is this person a Christian?
    2. What kind of Christian are they?
      1. Are they a Christian who has made the Word of God the final authority in their life?
    3. Is this person truly committed to loving and obeying God?
    4. Do you have compatibility in spiritual things?
    5. Do you agree on the major doctrines of the Bible?
    6. Do you agree on the church you will attend?
    7. Do you agree on how you will spend your time and money?
    8. Can you trust this person?
    9. Have you ever been given a reason not to trust this person?
    10. How does he or she handle adversity?
    11. Does this person trust God or fall into unbelief regularly when challenges come?
    12. Have you ever seen him or her angry?
    13. Have you ever seen this person angry with you?
    14. Did you resolve the conflict in a biblical way?
    15. Was forgiveness asked for and granted or did you try to sweep the issue under the rug?
    16. Ladies, does he have a way to provide for you?
    17. Is he or she responsible with money?
    18. Is he or she a good example?
    19. On what issues do you agree or disagree?
    20. Does this person have control over his or her sex drive?
      1. If a person cannot control themselves sexually while dating, it will be difficult for them to control themselves as a married person.
Scripture References:
  • Deuteronomy 30:19
  • Joshua 24:15
  • Isaiah 7:15, 16
  • 2 Corinthians 6:14-16
Pastor Robert Bagonza
Redeemed Church